Your Relationship Now!
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You can start improving your relationship
immediately! Take a few minutes to read and think about these ideas.
Then do some experiments based on these suggestions.
Spinning Your Wheels!
Keeping relationships on track is not always easy,
especially when you feel overwhelmed or stuck in a rut. Sometimes it
may seem like
everything you do to help just makes things worse. Over time,
feelings of love and trust erode until it may feel like
there is nothing left of the original loving relationship.
If this is your case, one thing is certain, persisting in the same old
attitudes and behaviors has not worked in the past and won't work now.
If you keep spinning your
wheels, you will just dig yourself deeper into the rut.
Can Do Now
There are many powerful coaching
strategies that can help you to transform your life and relationships.
Here are a few tips to get started:
- View problems, conflicts, and dissatisfaction
as wake up calls
pointing to the need for change.
- Change begins with you! Stop focusing on your
mate's short-comings. Give up trying to change or fix them. Instead,
make an unconditional
commitment to improve
yourself. You are responsible for making those
changes that are
fully within your reach, which is the most logical place to
- Practice good self-care and learn how to love
yourself. Becoming a partner in a healthy relationship begins with
loving yourself. The more you connect with yourself, the more you can
connect with your loved ones.
- Do more of what works and less of what
doesn't. Don't persist in behaviors that have never
worked — try something new.
- Good communication begins with stopping
destructive communication. Stop spinning your wheels. Stop tormenting
yourself and your partner by blaming, arguing,
digging in the
past. Stop nagging, criticizing, getting even, and punishing. Stop
shutting them out. These behaviors are destrutive and will never help.
- Focus on what you like and love about
your partner. Tell them some of these things every day!
- Share more quality time together and schedule
more fun activities.
self-help strategies may not be enough to change destructive patterns.
If you are not making progress or feel like things are getting worse,
call me. We can
discuss your concerns and how working together can help.